Monthly Archives: December 2012

All Falls Down

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So much has happened since last i posted. October and November were really rough for my family and I. natural disaster,sickness,and death befell us. I learned alot about myself and my family, some good some not so good.

As everyone knows, Hurricane Sandy was one of the worst natural disasters to hit new York. i live in one of the areas hardest hit. We had alort of flooding because we live right near the beach. My basement got flooded with water which destroyed our boiler. The lights were out for 13 days. Since we had no heat, we had to use our stove to heat the apartment, which was risky because of carbon monoxide. It was so cold right after the storm, that we had no choice. i had to boil freezing cold water just to make warm water to keep me and Amani clean and hand wash our clothes(which was really no big deal because I ‘ve done that a million times before the storm). Mommy A and N went stir crazy due to lack of television. X went crazy because he couldn’t play his XBox. Several arguments broke out between Mommy A and N but i stayed out of it and instead chose to focus on finishing books I couldn’t read becasue of my hecic work schedule. I also saw it as an opportunity to spend much needed quality time with Amani.

Two days after the storm, X had a seizure. He was in the bathroom, getting ready for school, when IheardĀ  loud thump and then a choking/gagging noise. I jumped up,ran into the bathroom,and found him lying on the floor convulsing. I called for Mommy A,who was knocked out asleep on the couch, and my uncle T heard me and ran into the bathroom. He’s had experience with seizures so he immediately started working on X while I woke up Mommy N and callled the paramedics. It was the scariest thing I’ve ever seen and I actually thought he might die. he spent 3 days in the hospital and a cyst was found in his brain. He’s back in school now and is under the care of a neurologist.

As for work, I had no way of getting back there because there was no transportation in or out of my neighborhood. Once the buses were back up and running, i was able to renew my work ID badge but still was unable to go back to work because the buses were only running until 5;30pm.I don’t get off until either 8;30pm or 10;30pm, depending on what day it is. The train that runs to my area was completely shut down and is the only one that runs there. So I had to spend another week home. A cab is $25 and that’s $125 I just didn’t have. I callled my HR department and kept them informed but after awhile I kept getting voicemails and excuses for why no one was getting back in touch with me.

After the storm damage was assessed by FEMA , they determined that we couldn’t sat at our house because of the boiler situation. The put us in a hotel in manhattan (paid for by them). We didn’t go until we had money to feed ourselves while at the hotel. Once we did get some money, my Aunt Janette passed away on nov 30th. Her nursing home in my neighborhood was destroyed in the storm and she was transferrred from there to one upstate and that’s where she passed from heart and kidney failure. That was a tough blow for us, even though we knew the extent of her sickness. We moved into the hotel on December 3.

We started making funeral arrangements right away and on Dec 10, Mommy N had a heart attack. She spent two days in the hospital and had to have a heart stent placed in her heart and is now on a strict diet and more medication. I’m trying to keep her calm as much as possible while she stills tries to look for usĀ  a place to live and decide whether or not to cremate my aunt. Mommy A , X, and his father are in the room next door to us but she doesn’t help us do anything.

I miss my job so much and i’ve received so much love and support from my friends and coworkers. I’m going to fight to keep my job, take care of my mom and Amani(who just lost her two front bottom teeth), help my family get through their grief, and focus on getting my career started.