Let me just say: I have always been against adults writing memoirs/biographies when they’re younger than 50. I know by that age we have TONS of life experience but in my mind, we still have so much more to live, it just doesn’t make sense to me to write a book about our lives when we are still young.
However, I was inspired to write a book by Nefertiti Austin’s book, Motherhood So White:A Memoir on Race, Gender, and Parenting in America. In it,Austin describes her search for literature that discusses a single Black woman adopting a child. She notes that most books on parenting were written by White people and didn’t delve into factors of race and gender in regards to parenting or adoption. It’s almost as if parenting by White people is the golden standard of child rearing. As both an avid reader and a product of adoption, that really struck a chord with me.
Miss Austin raised many good points about the journey of adoption as a Black woman that I honestly never thought about in regard to my mother’s journey to adopt myself and my brother. When I was going through the adoption process, I was 7 years old so I remember all of it. I never thought about the hurdles my mom may have had to face as a single woman wanting to parent. Sure, it was the 90s and a single woman raising children was more common, but I’m sure a woman choosing to be a single parent still earned many side eyes from society. Mom had to learn about the process as she went through. There were no books, podcasts, or blogs to help her manage everything. From what I’ve read of Austin’s book, there are only a dozen or so published books that discuss such a specific topic. That needs to change.
I’ve been wanting to write a book about my life for years. Whenever anyone hears my life story they say “This would make a great book”. A friend of mine who enjoys writing erotic fiction has also been encouraging me to write the book. My uncle has also given his blessing that if anyone should write about our family, it should be me. So,here I am. My goal is to share my story as an adoptee. I think that parents who are considering adoption,whether White or not, should be have a bit of an understanding of what the path to a forever home is like for the child(ren). In this regard, they’ll be able to hopefully understand and approach the child’s needs and feelings better if they know how not being raised by a biological parent feels and looks. Being adopted is a big deal for children and has a hand in how they are in relationship with the world around them into adulthood.
I don’t have a title, don’t know whether I am writing a physical book or an e book, or how long it is. All I know is God put it in my heart to share my testimony and inspire and help other who are like me or considering adoption. I have started writing and have maybe half a chapter writers so far. I don’t have a plan. I’m trusting on the Lord to give me the words to give to the people. I admit, I’m scare about the result and how well it will be received. But in this time, where everyone is scared about COVID-19 I figure I should go ahead and use my fear to propel me into what I believe to be an assignment by God. I will be sharing updates on video on my Mommy In Color FB page, so make sure you’re following me there. Also, tell me what you’re doing in these unsure times to elevate your business/personal life to the next level.
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