I Tell My Stories To…

I Tell My Stories To…

When I first started writing seriously, I was 9 years old. My mom had started dating someone and i had strong feelings against it. She knew that but continued seeing him. In truth, there was nothing wrong with this man. He showed genuine interest in my brother and I but I didn’t like sharing my mother with anyone else. I already had to compete witha needy little brother and a special needs aunt. So, my first “novel” was 5 chapters long and was about mysrlf and the other members of my household.

My mother’s boyfriend encouraged my efforts with a hearty “You got something there,kid”. My mom was more comcerned about how I had writte the character of myself. I think i described myself as climsy and lonely. All through school, I excelled in modt writing assignments. In high school, I applied for a position on the school newspaper, The Highlighter, in tenth grade only to be told I had to wait another year and to choose it as an elective. I did just that.

I always kept a diary as far back as I can remember. I wrote in it because I wasnt being heard in my house. I was too sensitive and  for my emotionally stunted family. So, I wrote. My biological mother, a sensitive soul herself,gifted me a diary when I was 14. She knew I had to write like I had to sleep and eat.

After Amani was born, I started a blog. I was a teenage mither and I had some thoughys about that.  It felt good to see all my hopes, dreams,fears, and accomplishments all in black and white.
The diaries Ive had since Amani was born are for her. I want her to know all about me..from me. After I am gone from this life,stories from relatives and friends will be told about me to my daughter.  I’d like to think all stories will be drowned in sweet sentiments, but I ain’t no fool.  For the stories that star me as the antagonist, I’d like to tell my side,if you will. I am completely honest with her and sone if the things she will read,I’m glad I’ll be dead for. But she will know my full story and hopefully use them and her own to help others. 


Dear 2018


Dear 20l8,

Im heading into you with a fsith I did not have in 2017. I spent the majority of the year stuck in a rut and stuck throwing myself a pity party. But not this year. This year, I want to practice Fearless Action. Fearless Action is me talking more risks professionally and personally.

I do not make resolutions because I feel like it’s too much pressure to grow. Growth takes time and to that end, I’ve set some goals. My prayer for 2018 is that I never give up no matter what. I am fearfully and wonderfully made and I must remember that. I was not made for failure and with God on my side,I may fall but I will not fail.

2018 is going to be the year that I say no more. I’m saying no because I need to say yes to me more. I want to thrive and live my best life the way God intended.

In 2018, I also plan on going out more.  Ive lived in New York City my entire life and there is so much I haven’t seen,so much Amani hasn’t seen and I’m  changing that in 2018 as well. So give me your best and worst 2018,because Jennice is ready!



The Reading Women Challenge 2018


I didn’t make any New Year Resolutions because they are way too much pressure. I did set some goals though.Aside from going back toa full time job, I would like to actually complete more books than I di it 17. To help me achieve this goal, I’ve started a book challenge hosted by The Reading Women. There are 24 categories(the last two are bonus books) and I’ve listed them here as well as my picks. I cant wait to see everyone else’s picks and as always, happy reading!

1) Book by a woman in translation-

2) Fantasy novel by a woman of color-

3) A book set in the American South

4)  A short story collection-

) A graphic novel or memoir-

6) A book published by an indie press-


7) A book set in Russia or by a Russian author-

8)– A book with a viewpoint character who is an immigrant or refugee-

9) A book by a Canadian or Australian author-

10) An essay collection-

11) A book about someone with a chronic illness-

12) True Crime-

13) book by an African American woman about the Civil Rights movement-

14) A classic novel written by a woman-

15) A poetry collection-

By Key Ballah

16) A book where the characters are travelling somewhere-

17) A book with food in the title-

18) A book written by a female Novel Prize winner-

19) A book from The Reading Women Award 2017 shortlist-

20) A memoir by someone who lives in a country different from yours-

21) A book inspired by a fairy tale-

 For those of you not following my bookstagram already, please follow me here. Happy New Year and happy reading!

Today I’m Shifting Into…


Today,I’m shifting into a place of thankfulness. Lately,I’ve been working with Shug on her spiritual life. Every night(almost) we read a story that teaches an important lesson from the Bible. She is also learning how To apply her lessons to real life. With all that going on, I have also been trying to reconnect with the Most High. Yesterday, I fasted from social media as a sign of good faith to God that I want to be obedient. In the past couple of days I noticed that because I’ve been preoccupied with trying to get close to the Creator,I haven’t had time to worry about the things that keep me up at night.

Today, I’m choosing to keep seeking God’s comfort and guidance because it is bringing me peace. I want Him to change some things in my life and I realize that I have to draw closer to Him. Don’t get me wrong,I’m not getting closer simply because I need something but because I know who I am to Him and it’s time for me to be the amazing woman that He knows I am. Can I get an amen?



Those of you who follow my Instagram account, know that this past weekend I was gifted with my very FIRST slow cooker.  I have decided to name it Lucille, a moniker I have to a favorite pen I had in 8th grade. Actually, I named the pen after the Little Richard song ‘Lucille’,after I watched the Little Richard biopic,starring a favorite of mine, Leon 😍😍😍. But, I digress.

I CAN’T WAIT to make my first slow cooker meal and so I got Pinterest and found quite a few I want to try. But one that stuck out to me was actually one I had seen done by my favorite television chef, Ree Drummond AKA The Pioneer Woman. It also just so happened that my mother mentioned that she had a taste for homemade lasagna,and then I got the slow cooker,all in the same week. Talk about fate,huh? Without further ado, here is the recipe for slow cooker lasagna. Enjoy!



Meat Mixture:
  • 2 teaspoons olive oil
  • 1 medium onion diced 
  • 2 pounds ground beef
  • 1 pound Italian sausage, casing removed
  • 3 cloves garlic, finely chopped 
  • One 28-ounce can diced tomatoes
  • One 14.5-ounce can diced tomatoes 
  • One 6-ounce can tomato paste 
  • 1 tablespoon minced fresh basil
  • 1 tablespoon minced fresh flat-leaf parsley
  • 1 teaspoon dried oregano 
  • 1/2 teaspoon kosher salt 
  • Freshly ground black pepper 
Cheese Mixture:
  • 3 cups ricotta cheese
  • 3/4 cup freshly grated Parmesan 
  • 1/2 cup grated Romano 
  • 1 tablespoon minced fresh basil
  • 1 tablespoon minced fresh flat-leaf parsley
  • 1/2 teaspoon kosher salt 
  • 1/2 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper 
  • 2 large eggs, beaten 
  • Nonstick cooking spray, for spraying the slow cooker
  • 15 uncooked lasagna noodles 
  • 2 cups grated mozzarella
  • Chopped fresh flat-leaf parsley, for garnish



For the meat mixture: In a large skillet over medium-high heat, add the olive oil and onion and saute for 5 minutes. Add the ground beef, sausage and garlic and cook until brown, 7 to 9 minutes. Add the tomatoes with their juice, tomato paste, basil, parsley, oregano, salt and some pepper and stir. Set aside.

For the cheese mixture: In a medium bowl, combine the ricotta, Parmesan, Romano, basil, parsley, salt, pepper and eggs and stir together well.

For the lasagna: Spray a 6-quart slow cooker with cooking spray.

Spoon in one-quarter of the meat mixture on the bottom and top with 5 lasagna noodles, broken to fit. Add a third of the cheese mixture, then sprinkle with 1/2 cup mozzarella. Repeat this layering twice, starting with the meat mixture and ending with the mozzarella, for 3 layers total.

For the fourth layer, top with the remaining meat mixture and remaining 1/2 cup mozzarella. Cover and cook on low for 4 hours. Turn off the heat and allow the lasagna to sit 30 minutes before serving. Sprinkle with chopped parsley.

Show: The Pioneer Woman

Episode: Hay There!

Halloween This Or That Tag Questions


1. Chocolate candy or fruity? I like a nice balance. NO CANDY CORN!!!

2. Witches or Vampires? Vampires!!!! That is why I am obsessed with Anne Rice’s classic The Vampire Chronicles

3. Trick or Treat? Treat. I hate being pranked. If you EVER prank me ,I will slowly get my revenge on you. AndI dont do revenge in a big way,nope, with me it will something small that will drive you mad. Ask my brothers. Two of them are still receiving their revenge from me and dont even know it…BWHAHAHA!!!

4. Halloween Party or Scary Movie?

I prefer getting a serious sugar rush at home with a  good scary movie!

5. Skeletons or Zombies?

Zombies. Who the hell is afraid of the foundation of the human anatomy?!

6. Trick-or-Treat or Hand Out Candy?

 How can I watch scary movies if I’m  out trick or treating…duh!

7. Hay Ride or Corn Maze?

Hay ride. I have this dream where I get stuck in a maze that has black panthers hiding through out the maze chasing me and snapping their huge vicious teeth at me…

8. Scary Costume or Funny Costume?

Depends on the mood I’m in that year. Like this year, I’m doing quirky,but last year I did sexy.

9. Pumpkin Seeds or Pumpkin Pie?

Pumpkin pie definitely! Think I’m going to attempt my first homemade  one this year.

10. Bottle Feed A Baby Zombie or Walk Alone Through A Dark Forest?

Compliments of the Twisted Beanstalk Nursery

Bottle feed a baby zombie of course. It’s a baby vs. the unknown. I choose the bay,because if it starts doing all that zombie shit, I could just kill it. Sorry, creepy cute baby. 

11. Bats or Black Cats?

I am a proud black cat owner!

12. Pumpkin Spice or hot Chocolate?

Pumpkin spice ALL.DAY. Check out my Instagram to see all my pumpkin goodness food!

13. Celebrate in your neighborhood or at the mall?

Neighborhood. In my house. Watching the scary movies…didnt we go over this,already?!

My Fall Favorites


What is your favorite Halloween candy?

Hmm… I love anything except candy corn.


What is one of the worst β€œtreats” you ever received in your candy bag? 

See number 1.


What was one of your favorite costumes you wore when you were a kid?

Darn, I wish I had a picture of it. I got my first costume when I was 11 years old and it was a teeny bopper outfit. Complete with poodle on skirt and saddle shoes! I was too embarrassed to tell my classmates what it was because I felt like they would call me a nerd. My teacher explained my costume and everyone complimented the poodle on my skirt.



How about your favorite costume as an adult?

As adult I’ve only ever been SEXY Snow White


What scares you most on Halloween? Spiders? Zombies? Axe murderers? Eyeballs in a jar… 

This is Pumpkinhead and he scares the shit out of me! Bleh…


So then, what is your favorite scary movie??

Invasion of the Body Snatchers(1978)

The Fly (198?) It was gross and I loved it! Plus…Jeff Goldblum naked!!!

Night of the Living Dead (1968)

What is you favorite part of the Thanksgiving meal?

Hmm… well this year it will be celebrating my daughter’s first decade on Thanksgiving Day!

 What is your favorite piece of clothing or accessory to wear in the Fall?

Scarves are my favorite thing to wear.  And the best part is,I make my own!


What is your favorite pie?  If you do not like pie I will forgive you but then what is your favorite Fall dessert?

Lately, it’s a pumpkin pie cheesecake that I found in my local supermarket

The cheesecake is underneath the bagel covered in pumpkin spice cream cheese as seen on my 



Do you live where there are four seasons? If so, where is your favorite place to see the fall colors?

There is beautiful foliage on the walk to my daughter’s school. As soon as it’s in full effect, I will post pictures!


This is the above mentioned area pre Fall foliage

What is your favorite fall tradition?

Watching the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade. Every year I try to catch a picture of the Spongebob balloon as he floats by because he’s one of my favorite cartoon characters. It’s become my own quirky tradition!


Is there anything else special about the Fall to you?

 Some close relatives of mine that have passed away have birthdays in November so I like to remember them by picking leaves of different colors,saying a prayer,and watching the leaves float away out to sea. I also have a two nieces with birthdays and a couple of friends with birthdays as well! So I guess I’m celebrating all through November!!!

Time and Balance


I notice I use my time best when I’ve done my morning routine to completion.  This past week, I’ve been bullshitting and not doing it. What’s my excuse? Aside from a couple famioly hiccups this weeks,I’ve been truly tired. Like almost-miss-my-Allstar-by-Smashmouth-custom-morning-alarm tired.

I enjoy spending time to myself before I have any other roles to take on at 6:30am. I take my silent walk around the block. I get to admire my dreary little piece of NYC. I get to have witty musings and observations about life and motherhood when I take my walks. During my meditation I visualize the life I’m headed to. That in turn inspired me to read,which inspires me to come up with new content. Full circle,y’all!

With that being said, I don’t feel all that guilty about missing my routine sometimes. I don’t always want to be alone with myself. Sometimes I wan to jist stay busy in my other roles. Nothing wrong with trying to find a balance. Isn’t that what life is? 

Free Fall Events in NYC


One of the things I love most about living in NYC is for every holiday there are a million free or inexpensive events to participate in. All I ever have to do is make sure my Metro Card is loaded up and pack lunch for Shug and I. Many people don’t celebrate Halloween but there’s no reason they shouldn’t enjoy the Fall foliage as well as Fall activities. After doing a little digging, I’ve found a few FREE things to do with the kids in the 5 boroughs. Happy Autumn!

1. Greenbelt Pumpkin Festival

Admission is free however there is a $2 fee for the carousel as well as a fee for the pumpkins

Location:Willowbrook Park,Staten Island

Date: Saturday, October 7th

Time: 12PM- 5PM

2.Fall Harvest Festival

Live music,games, crafts,pumpkins,and more!
Location: Forest Park Victory Field, Forest Hills,Queens

Date: Saturday October 24

Time: 12PM-3PM

3. Children’s Harvest Festival

Children pick a pumpkin from the patch,decorste them,ride horse drawn carriages,and enjoy a concert

Location: Carl Schurz Park, Upper East Side,NYC

Date:Saturday, October 21

Time: 11AM-1PM

4.Autumn Moon Cultural Festival and Lantern Parade 

Part of the annual Chinese harvest season celebration, the festival includes cultural performances, traditional crafts,and a lantern Parade

Location: Sunset Park, Brooklyn

Date:Sunday, October 8

Time: 12PM- 5PM

5. Giant Pumpkin Weekend

Freakishly large pumpkins(some weigh over a ton) are on diplay during this fun weekend. The growers will be in attendance during a Q&A. You can also take pics with the pumpkins( I do believe they’re decorated/carved.

Location: New York Botanical Garden, The Bronx

Date: Saturday October 21-22


The Mommy In Color Mission Statement


My blog believes that underprivileged Black mothers are often silenced with no voice to let the world know about their voice because I AM an underprivileged Black mother.  I want people to see that although we don’t have much we are regular mom’s.

I lost about my experience as a Black mother. There is a stigma about us and we are shamed and told we aren’t good enough because we don’t have enough. I want attention and help for us. I don’t want anyone is to be ashamed.  We should be working together as a tribe to raise our children.  Over time, as I become more comfortable doing so, I will get into the real things I go through. I’m grateful to have an audience to hear me. My business goal is to take OUR message  to the forefront of discussions so that we can get what we need: support.  My hope is that you ,precious reader, will find understanding, non judgement,and safety here.