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My Top Ten Podcasts for Moms

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My Top Ten Podcasts for Moms

I actually wrote this post sometime last year and I recently went to update it and somehow the graphics got messed up so I had to delete the entire post. Anyway, I looove podcast! I became obsessed with them 2 years aho and I have favorites for every aspect of my life: the mom, the woman, a Black woman in America, the creative, the business,and the Christian. Like, I owe alot of my growth as an adult to listening to other people’s perspectives and journeys in life. My blog is mostly about being a mother so of course I have a lot of podcasts about that.The thing that all of these podcasts have in common is that all of these moms are honest about the not so great aspects of motherhood. They put themselves out there and I admire that so much.Here are some of my faves(no specific order)If you have any that you think I would like, do leave that in the comments.

1) BIG FAT POSITIVE: A PREGNANCY AND PARENTING JOURNEY

Hosts: Shanna and Laura

Show Info(via Stitcher)

Big Fat Positive (BFP) is an irreverent and funny show that follows two moms-to-be on their journey through pregnancy and into new motherhood, week by week. With weekly check-ins, special guests and segments such as “OMG I’m Freaking Out,” hosts Laura Birek and Shanna Micko recount the often hilarious and always honest highs and lows of being a pregnant woman and new mom. Episodes 1 to 32 deal with pregnancy. Episodes 33 on deal with new parenthood. Tune in wherever you are on your journey! New episodes are released every Monday.

Latest episode: Pumping The Breaks on Pumping Breast Milk

2) MOMS DON’T HAVE TIME TO READ BOOKS

Host: Zibby Owens

Show Info(via Stitcher):

Writer Zibby Owens, an NYC-based mom of four, interviews and chats with other writers about their work.

Latest episode:Zibby’s Essay: Making Time For Love This Valentine’s Day

3) THAT’S INAPPROPRIATE

Hosts: Tiffany Jenkins and Meredith

Show Info:Being a parent is the toughest job on the planet. Nuff said. Join me each week for an hour where we will discuss all things marriage, motherhood, and everything in between. I will take live calls from real Moms across the globe and give my advice-ish answers to all of your burning parenting questions. Remember, you are not alone. We are here for you!

Latest episode: Preschooler Gives Play by Play of Her Stolen Perfect Attendance Pencil

4)GIRL’S GIRLS PODCAST-

Hosts: Brittany Gibbons and Meredith Soleau

Show Info:

The flagship podcast from Curvy Girl Media brings together Brittany Gibbons and friends to talk about fashion, relationships, sex, parenting, and our bodies. Cool? As long as you’re here, pull out your wine glass and stay a while. This show is not always safe for wo

Latest episode:Getting Older and Weirder

5) MOMMIFACETED-

Host: Rachel Pierre

Show Info:Interviewing successful black moms and moms of color who are juggling motherhood, their careers, and finding balance – all while following their dreams. It’s not perfect, but it’s real motherhood. This podcast tells the journey of black moms owning the many facets of their life whether that’s who to trust to watch their children, working mom life, finding out if balance is possible, self care for mothers, and maintaining relationships. Previous guests on the show have included influencer Mattie James, Julee Wilson, the Beauty Director at Essence Magazine, Dr. Joy Harden Bradford of Therapy for Black Girls, and Felecia Hatcher of Black Tech Week, all moms with successful careers. We are more than just moms. Join host, Rachel Pierre for a talk about how to do it all – if that’s even possible.

Latest episode:Which Role Comes First- Wife or Mom? w/ Lakia Brandenburg

6)WHY MOMMY DRINKS-

Hosts: Betsey Stover and Amanda Allan

Show Info:

How many times have you found yourself standing in the middle of a store with a screaming toddler? Sitting in a school pickup line with a puking baby? Maybe you just feel like the day can’t possibly get any longer. Join comedians/moms Betsy Stover and Amanda Allan each week as they chat with a different guest (actors, musicians, writers, etc…) about the moments in parenting that broke them and possibly drove them to drink. It’s an advice free zone where the hosts and guests tell heartbreakingly honest and often hilarious stories of child rearing chaos.

Latest episode: Eve Sturges: Therapist Eyes

7)EXPERIENCING MOTHERHOOD SINGLE AND BLACK

Host: Kim Williams

Show Info(via apple podcasts):
Experiencing Motherhood: Single & Black is a podcast for single moms by single moms. Kim shares her experiences throughout her single mom journey along with tips and tricks to educate, inspire, and uplift other moms. Kim also brings on other moms (and sometimes dads) to talk about various topics related to single parenting in the black community.

Latest episode:Pressing Reset: New Year, Better Me

8) MAHOGANY MOMOLOGY

Hosts: Mel and Tash

Latest episode: Motherhood Abroad

9) SPAWNED-

Hosts:Liz and Kristen

Show Info:Hi, we’re Liz Gumbinner and Kristen Chase of CoolMomPicks.com and parents to six kids between us, that we know of. We’ve got a microphone and more than the two minutes the Today Show gives us, and we’re not afraid to use them. Join us (and some awesome celebrity guests) for candid parenting culture discussions, non-judgy (mostly) tips, and a good dose of humor, if we’ve had enough coffee. Which is always.

Named a top podcast by The Washington Post, Mental Floss, Business Insider and Fatherly; 2016 Iris Award winner for best parenting podcast.

Latest episode: Our Almost totslly Live Super Fun Valentine’s Day

10) SUPER MAMAS-

Hosts: Paulina and Bricia

Show Info:

Hosted by new moms (and sisters) Paulina and Bricia Lopez. Super Mamas is a judgment-free space where new, expecting and experienced mothers can come together to learn from one another, be inspired by each other and bond over their similar upbringings and cultural background. Laugh and cry along with the Super Mamas every week as they share their stories with friends, experts and each other. New episode every Tuesday.

Latest episode: How To Talk To Your Kids About Personal Safety

January 2020 Goals

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January 2020 Goals

I know I’m about two weeks late with this post but I had to really think about what my goals are for this month. I wanted to wait until I got into the groove of yet another new routine where I’m at 4:30 in the morning. This last week proved very exhausting physically but I can get things done if I use the time wisely…but I REALLY want to sleep

My personal goals are really simple. I just want to go back to my Miracle Morning routine. It was very helpful in getting me in a positive mood for the day and I enjoyed having that me time before the chaos of the kids. I’m crabby and all over the place in the morning and I sometimes take it out on the kids which I don’t like at all. So, here’s to a more calm me. Also, I’m looking for a new apartment for me,my mom,and the kids.The Girl wants to go back to Far Rockaway which I don’t really mind. My mom wants Manhattan which I do mind. It’s the most expensive borough and I’m already stretching our dollars as far as they can go. I don’t mind Brooklyn or Queens. As long as the area is decent, the home is up to code,and I can picture raising the kids there for years to come, I’m sold.

Avery’s father has come back into the picture and wants to help me raise Avery and start over with me as well. I have no issue with him being a dad and I’m cautiously optimistic about it. So far, he’s been seeing Avery once or twice week. He had a minor setback when he fell off a ladder at work and fractured his ankle but he’s recovering well. Not sure how I feel about us getting back together but I won’t completely dismiss it.

As for the blog, I have been challenged to do a schedule of posts for they entire year. That scares me because I never really plan ahead. I just write the post and publish. Even this one is unplanned and I’m doing it while holding a sleeping Avery.

I see the point of a schedule and I understand how I could benefit from one so I’m going to try it. Instead of doing it a whole year in advance I’ll break it down to scheduling a month or two in advance. If any of you have any tips on scheduling posts, drop them in my comment section because I could use the help. I’ve also started a You Tube channel. Last year, I barely watched You Tube but many of my favorite book bloggers have accompanying channels and I do enjoy visuals of them and their gorgeous bookshelves. I warn you now, I have no cute lighting, no makeup,and I’m wearing my headscarf in all the videos. This is more of an experiment right now and I don’t know if I want to do book stuff or mom stuff or both. Definitely gonna pray about that.

My reading goals are pretty overconfident to say the least. I have decided to participate in two challenge, The Modern Mrs. Darcy Challenge and the Reading Women Challenge. Oh,and I’m participating in Dewey’s Readathon in April. My book goal for the year is 35 books and between the MMD Challenge and the Reading Women Challenge, I think that’s 34 books. Some of the categories are going to be a little difficult for me but I’m up for it.

I’m looking forward to another blessed year even if I’m unable to reach all my goals. For me the purpose of them is not about completion but about the growth I will get from pursuing them. Wishing you all a prosperous, healthy new year!!!

Falling Into Gratitude

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Falling Into Gratitude

With Fall upon us,I’m feeling pretty grateful for the change in season and the celebration of life that will be happening for my family. My daughter will be twelve years old on 11/23 and my son will be 1 on 12/5. Yes,that is technically still Fall. I’m ready to celebrate life. But let me rewind a little bit.

A couple of weeks after I gave birth to Avery, I noticed some changes in my mother. She was supposed to take Amani to and from school for me for th two weeks following my discharge from the hospital while I healed. Two days into that,Mom tells me she can’t take Amani to school anymore because she’s having trouble breathing. I thought it was an excuse to just not walk Amani for me, so I resumed pickin her up myself 4 days post partum. But Amani confirmed that her grandmother was having trouble breathing. Then my mother went to a new doctor which was odd because she had been with her previous one for ten years. She offered no explanation and I didn’t go with her fo her initial visit. However, Mom did tell me that the doctor was concerned about her kidney health and warned her if she didn’t do something about it soon,she wouldn’t see the end of 2019. Tht freaked me out but Mom didnt seem to take it seriously. She continued to treat her body like a garbage dump and didn’t go back to see her doctor until April 2019.

The news she gave me did remind me of when another doctor 5 years or so prior told her she has thirty something percent kidney damage. So,I start paying closer attention to Mom. She’s already stopped going clothes shopping, grocery shopping, and no longer wants the landlord or our upstairs neighbors to see her. That was weird because aside from spoiling the kids, she LOVES to shop til she drops. We used to hit Macy’s clearance rack regularly then spend an hour in the home department looking at Martha Stewart sheets. She didn’t even want a Christmas tree for Avery’s first official Christmas. We always argue about putting up decorations and she always win. This time I won. Red flag number 2.

Her appetite diminished pretty rapidly and I noticed she was losing weight. I cried when I found an entire pot of cooked but barely eaten ox tails in the refrigerator. I cried myslef to sleep that night. She NEVER leaves an oxtail uneaten.When I asked Mom abou her health,she’d say she was fine and she promised to reschedule the doctor’s appointment she broken several times. I stopped believing her. As Winter turned to Spring, mom’s attitude changed and she became very mean and callous. She picked silly and meaningless arguments with me, my brother,and Amani. I took the brunt of her anger to deflect from Amani. She seemed to become jealous whenever I took the children out or whenever my brother went out with hs girlfriend. Amani started complaining of the mean things her Granny said to her when I was out of ear shot. I said nothing to my mom about it most of the time because I knew she was sick but twice I couldn’t let it go. She missed Amani’s 5th grade graduation, which was so heart breaking to deal with.

I started telling close family members that I suspected Mom was gravely ill and I didn’t know how to help. They offered no real help or moral support,not even when I assured them she was letting herself die. I turned to a close friend and a woman who I knew as my aunt although she was no blood relation. They encouraged me to cease trying to get help for Mom,who made it clear she didn’t want help. So, I started preparing myself for life without Mom. Don’t get me wrong, I kept the faith that God would intervene but I came to a peace that maybe this was His answer.

By the time school started, Mom looked gaunt with dark circles under her eyes and her pupils were looking yellowish. I knew she was dying and I hated her for making me and the kids watch it happen. How could she proclaim to love us but act as if we don’t know what’s happening to her?! The Lord jumped into action just as I was about to give up. My mom wound up in the hospital emergency room and stayed there for 6 days.

She had to start life saving dialysis immediately. At first she refused but I finally spoke to her about how everything looked through my eyes since she had gotten worse. I told her we were already living without her and I could see how that made her feel. She relented. I was so relieved that she wasn’t going to die but I was still angry about what she put us through. But that was another conversation for another time, I got to keep my mama.

Mom has been on dialysis for about 3 weeks now. She must have treatment three times a week. I’m happy to say that she is sticking with it and her disposition has improved. She wants to enjoy life and people again. Her appetite has returned and she’s looking forward to a trip to Macy’s to find new duds for her smaller frame. She even has a crush on another dialysis patient but won’t tak to him until she’s “looking good”(her words). I’m in eternal debt to God for extending mercy and grace to her.

My faith was definitely tested this year. I wanted some things in my life changed and this was a test of how bad I wanted it. I learned alot about myself and my mom. Both mom and I have emerged from this closer to each other,but more importantly closer to God. I know her perspective of this is different from mine but our conclusion is the same…God is REAL!

ONE MORE THING BEFORE YOU GO:

My mom had a pretty hefty hospital bil that her insurance covered most of. There was a $300 balance that thanks to your donations has dropped to $80. Sounds like nothing but its a big deal for us because we just can’t afford it. So, help a fellow mom, blogger, and human out. You can donate to my Cash app or Pay Pal. Thanks to all of you who donated, it was a big load off getting the amount down. See you all soon!