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My Top Ten Podcasts for Moms

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My Top Ten Podcasts for Moms

I actually wrote this post sometime last year and I recently went to update it and somehow the graphics got messed up so I had to delete the entire post. Anyway, I looove podcast! I became obsessed with them 2 years aho and I have favorites for every aspect of my life: the mom, the woman, a Black woman in America, the creative, the business,and the Christian. Like, I owe alot of my growth as an adult to listening to other people’s perspectives and journeys in life. My blog is mostly about being a mother so of course I have a lot of podcasts about that.The thing that all of these podcasts have in common is that all of these moms are honest about the not so great aspects of motherhood. They put themselves out there and I admire that so much.Here are some of my faves(no specific order)If you have any that you think I would like, do leave that in the comments.

1) BIG FAT POSITIVE: A PREGNANCY AND PARENTING JOURNEY

Hosts: Shanna and Laura

Show Info(via Stitcher)

Big Fat Positive (BFP) is an irreverent and funny show that follows two moms-to-be on their journey through pregnancy and into new motherhood, week by week. With weekly check-ins, special guests and segments such as “OMG I’m Freaking Out,” hosts Laura Birek and Shanna Micko recount the often hilarious and always honest highs and lows of being a pregnant woman and new mom. Episodes 1 to 32 deal with pregnancy. Episodes 33 on deal with new parenthood. Tune in wherever you are on your journey! New episodes are released every Monday.

Latest episode: Pumping The Breaks on Pumping Breast Milk

2) MOMS DON’T HAVE TIME TO READ BOOKS

Host: Zibby Owens

Show Info(via Stitcher):

Writer Zibby Owens, an NYC-based mom of four, interviews and chats with other writers about their work.

Latest episode:Zibby’s Essay: Making Time For Love This Valentine’s Day

3) THAT’S INAPPROPRIATE

Hosts: Tiffany Jenkins and Meredith

Show Info:Being a parent is the toughest job on the planet. Nuff said. Join me each week for an hour where we will discuss all things marriage, motherhood, and everything in between. I will take live calls from real Moms across the globe and give my advice-ish answers to all of your burning parenting questions. Remember, you are not alone. We are here for you!

Latest episode: Preschooler Gives Play by Play of Her Stolen Perfect Attendance Pencil

4)GIRL’S GIRLS PODCAST-

Hosts: Brittany Gibbons and Meredith Soleau

Show Info:

The flagship podcast from Curvy Girl Media brings together Brittany Gibbons and friends to talk about fashion, relationships, sex, parenting, and our bodies. Cool? As long as you’re here, pull out your wine glass and stay a while. This show is not always safe for wo

Latest episode:Getting Older and Weirder

5) MOMMIFACETED-

Host: Rachel Pierre

Show Info:Interviewing successful black moms and moms of color who are juggling motherhood, their careers, and finding balance – all while following their dreams. It’s not perfect, but it’s real motherhood. This podcast tells the journey of black moms owning the many facets of their life whether that’s who to trust to watch their children, working mom life, finding out if balance is possible, self care for mothers, and maintaining relationships. Previous guests on the show have included influencer Mattie James, Julee Wilson, the Beauty Director at Essence Magazine, Dr. Joy Harden Bradford of Therapy for Black Girls, and Felecia Hatcher of Black Tech Week, all moms with successful careers. We are more than just moms. Join host, Rachel Pierre for a talk about how to do it all – if that’s even possible.

Latest episode:Which Role Comes First- Wife or Mom? w/ Lakia Brandenburg

6)WHY MOMMY DRINKS-

Hosts: Betsey Stover and Amanda Allan

Show Info:

How many times have you found yourself standing in the middle of a store with a screaming toddler? Sitting in a school pickup line with a puking baby? Maybe you just feel like the day can’t possibly get any longer. Join comedians/moms Betsy Stover and Amanda Allan each week as they chat with a different guest (actors, musicians, writers, etc…) about the moments in parenting that broke them and possibly drove them to drink. It’s an advice free zone where the hosts and guests tell heartbreakingly honest and often hilarious stories of child rearing chaos.

Latest episode: Eve Sturges: Therapist Eyes

7)EXPERIENCING MOTHERHOOD SINGLE AND BLACK

Host: Kim Williams

Show Info(via apple podcasts):
Experiencing Motherhood: Single & Black is a podcast for single moms by single moms. Kim shares her experiences throughout her single mom journey along with tips and tricks to educate, inspire, and uplift other moms. Kim also brings on other moms (and sometimes dads) to talk about various topics related to single parenting in the black community.

Latest episode:Pressing Reset: New Year, Better Me

8) MAHOGANY MOMOLOGY

Hosts: Mel and Tash

Latest episode: Motherhood Abroad

9) SPAWNED-

Hosts:Liz and Kristen

Show Info:Hi, we’re Liz Gumbinner and Kristen Chase of CoolMomPicks.com and parents to six kids between us, that we know of. We’ve got a microphone and more than the two minutes the Today Show gives us, and we’re not afraid to use them. Join us (and some awesome celebrity guests) for candid parenting culture discussions, non-judgy (mostly) tips, and a good dose of humor, if we’ve had enough coffee. Which is always.

Named a top podcast by The Washington Post, Mental Floss, Business Insider and Fatherly; 2016 Iris Award winner for best parenting podcast.

Latest episode: Our Almost totslly Live Super Fun Valentine’s Day

10) SUPER MAMAS-

Hosts: Paulina and Bricia

Show Info:

Hosted by new moms (and sisters) Paulina and Bricia Lopez. Super Mamas is a judgment-free space where new, expecting and experienced mothers can come together to learn from one another, be inspired by each other and bond over their similar upbringings and cultural background. Laugh and cry along with the Super Mamas every week as they share their stories with friends, experts and each other. New episode every Tuesday.

Latest episode: How To Talk To Your Kids About Personal Safety

4 Tips on Traveling on the Subway with A Toddler

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4 Tips on Traveling on the Subway with A Toddler

I have a 4 hour commute (going and coming back)Monday through Friday to get Amani to and from school. Most of those days I have to bring Avery with me unless his grandma babysits. I’ve been doing this for a few months now and I’ve learned a couple of things during that time. I hope these tips help and if you have any more,drop them in the comments.

1) BRING SNACKS. I’m up at 4:30 am and Avery is up at that time as well. I feed him breakfast but by the time I’ve dropped Amani off, its around 8:30 and he starts getting a little cranky and peckish. I pack dry cereal and orange juice or water and he eats and takes a nap. I suggest a healthy snack that isnt messy but if you forget, there are newsstands in most of the train stations.

2) ASK FOR HELP. One of the train stations I use to travel doesn’t have elevators or escalators,which means stairs are the only option. I usually lug the stroller up and down the stairs myself but not anymore.A young woman fell down the stairs and broke her neck while taking her stroller down the stairs. That really scared me so now if Amani isn’t with me to help, I don’t mind asking. I very rarely have to ask and it’s usually a gentleman who helps. But sometimes people act like they don’t see you and on those occasions,I ask. Don’t be afraid, remember it takes a village and who can say no to a woman with a baby?Oh, and I’ve been harassing the MTA on Twitter about putting elevators in ALL the subway stations. Might even start a petition. If they want to raise the fare, they have to make it worth it.

Lomg train rides require a nap

3) TALK TO YOUR TODDLER. Avery is in his pointing phase and he wants to know what everything is by pointing and saying “that”. Being a city baby provides LOTS of opportunities for learning. For example, here in NY the trains have letters or numbers to identify them. We take the ‘A train’ and whenever it pulls into the station,Avery will point and say ‘A’. When other trains pull in, i repeat the letter for him in an attempt to get him to recognize and remember it. Also, read the name of the stops to your toddler as well as signs and the subway maps. You may not think they are paying attention or understand but repetition is key. It alo distracts from tantrums and restlessness.

4) ENCOURAGE TALKING TO STRANGERS. As I said in #3, Avery is in a pointing phase and he loves to also point at people. People usually smile, wave, and talk to him and he ‘talks’ back. This is a great way to encourage and practice socialization skills. Avery LOVES people and is starting to understand how conversation works. Thankfully, no one talks to him in “baby talk”. A few people even shake hands with Avery which is another way he’s learning how to greet people. And just like #3, it distracts him from being restless and having a tantrum.

Traveling with a baby used to really make me nervous mbut now that I have been using these tips, its much smoother sailing. There can be annoying delays and rerouting of train lines(mostly weekends) but remember babies/toddlers thrive on consistency so no matter how the travel changes stick to the routine as much as possible. And if all else fails stick a tablet in their face. Good luck, city moms!

My Hair Regimen 2019

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My Hair Regimen 2019

Hey, natural moms!! Raise your hand if you’re like me and neglect your hair because you’re a mom…I’ll wait…………Uh huh, exactly as I thought, most of you put all your energy into child rearing and forget about you. I’m with you,girl.

With Amani self care went out the window. I was raised by a single mom who worked and neglected her social life a lot. So to prove I was a good mom, I did the same. A year into that, I was like “Nah, I have to breathe. So I started figuring out how to make myself feel better when I can’t go out. So I went natural in 2013. I started off really strong dedicating alot of money and time to getting my hair in check.

Fast forward and I have Avery,who is a HANDFUL and I don’t have time for hair. But when I do try to tame the bird’s nest on my head, I keep the same regimen as I did 6 years ago. As tight as my budget for myself is, I managed to get a couple new hair products,some I’ve used faithfully and a couple new things. I’m a product junkie, so definitely tell me what you’re using on your and how you use it.

Pre poo(prepping the hair with product before wash. This step makes the hair more pliable for washing.

I usually use use a cheap conditioner by VO5 for pre poo but I think I have found a holy grail with Creme of Nature’s Clay and Charcoal prepp treatment. I’ve heard good things about the detoxifying benefits of charcoal so I wanted in. OMG, it immediately softens the curls before the hair is even clean. It goes on smooth and has a slight detergent smell but I loved it. I section my hair into six and apply the product generously to each section.

Then I cover with a plastic cap and headscarf for ten minutes. Enough time to make sure Avery isn’t destroying something or annoying his sister.

Washing:

I rinse out the pre poo, then apply a shampoo. I love ORS’s Monoi Oil Anti Breakage Leave In cream. It doubles as a deep conditioner, which is the next step. I never used the shampoo or conditioner that’s in the same product line. I like good slip in my shampoo and this shampoo has meh slip. It is sooo hard to squeeze out the conditioner from the bottle because it’s really thick. It should have been in a jar. But just after shampooing, I noticed less breakage as promised. Because of my neglect I had a lot of breakage. Yes, I’d use this shampoo and conditioner again.

Conditioning:

Because of aforementioned breakage, I needed a protein conditioner. It helps with breakage by strengthening the hair shaft. I normally use ORS Hair Mayo but I needed something powerful so I turned to Aphogee’s 2 Step Protein Treatment. It’s watery in consistency which apparently is good for my low porosity hair but ut hardens in the hair fast so apply quick ly. I left it on for 10 minutes and it took quite a bit of rinsing to make sure it was out. I don’t think I’ll use it again, the hardening of my hair was not cool.

I applied the ORS Monoi Oil Anti Breakage conditioner(see previous picture)because protein conditioners really dry your hair out and you need to replace that moisture. Im not going to lie, I love this line because the packaging is my favorite color but the products are very good. I love that there are no overwhelming scents and it’s not expensive. I use a lot of products on my hair and I don’t want competing smells on it.

I usually leave conditioner on my hair for around 30 minutes. Its covered in a plastic cap and head scarf. More time to check in with kids, scroll Twitter, or look up new Pinterest crockpot recipes. I have this multi tasking thing IN.THE.BAG.

The Big Finish:

After I rinse out conditioner, i add a leave in conditioner. Creme of Nature Argain Oil line is primo. Ive used the shampoo, intense conditioner,and curlxl creme but the leave in is my favorite. It makes the hair shiny, has a clean scent and the oil keeps it moisturized. It’s a liquid spray that yoh must shake to activate.

After that, I apply my oils which is usually Jamaican Black castor oil, extra virgin olive oil, or coconut oil. The blend I’m currently using is JBCO, EVOO,and tea tree. All of them have excellent hair benefits including thickening of hair, antifungal properties, and moisture retention. If I’m not going to twist my hair right away, then I make six large cornrows and cover in my headscarf when I sleep.

I know this routine seems like a lot but your hair needs love and time and patience, just like your kids. If you have other methods of hair care, I’m all ears. Find me on IG, Facebook, and Twitter.Until next week!!

Let’s Talk About Sex(Briefly)

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Let’s Talk About Sex(Briefly)

It has come to my attention that although we mom bloggers are expected to be honest about our lives, we are still viewed as non sexual in some respects. I was talking to a friend and she alerted me that she could see a tweet of mine discussing a sex act in detail. To myself I’m like “So what? I’m grown and so aremy followers. She then explained to me how readers view mom bloggers and moms in general.I’m like ” I have two kids, it should be obvious that I have sex”. But, in case it isn’t…I HAVE SEX. Here’s an even bigger news break: I ENJOY SEX.

Now, I know that statement is contradictory to my Christian beliefs but I’m not a hypocrite. I believe that we were created to be sexual for procreation but not solely for procreation. If that were the case, why do we get satisfaction from having sex? Why not just have sex be a thing we do to make babies with no emotional stuff attached? Sure, Im having sex without the benefit of marriage and sure it’s a sin. But I feel like Christians take it to the extreme when criticizing what is in our nature to do. If children are a blessing, then why try to shame the way in which the blessing was delivered.

This is not a discussion about religion, by the way. This is just me talking about myself as a sexual being. For you out there who just see a book nerd single pious mom, I’m far from that. Thanks for coming to my TED talk.

Time Flies..

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Time Flies..

This is a writing prompt, compliments of Mama Kat’s Losin’ It. Make sure you check out her other writing prompts and link up your posts Thursday.
1. Throwback Thursday: Choose a photo from a previous June and write a poem or a blog post.

Time Flies…

In those brown eyes

Time Flies…

Running into my arms when she cries

Time Flies..

Throwing away the baby dolls her grandmother buys

Time Flies…

I remember her non stop questions, all the who’s? What’s? Why’s?

Time Flies…

Your becoming a teen soon, with your tiny white lies

Time Flies….

You’ve gotten quite bright, like the orange wings of monarch butterflies

Time Flies…