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Time and Balance

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I notice I use my time best when I’ve done my morning routine to completion.  This past week, I’ve been bullshitting and not doing it. What’s my excuse? Aside from a couple famioly hiccups this weeks,I’ve been truly tired. Like almost-miss-my-Allstar-by-Smashmouth-custom-morning-alarm tired.

I enjoy spending time to myself before I have any other roles to take on at 6:30am. I take my silent walk around the block. I get to admire my dreary little piece of NYC. I get to have witty musings and observations about life and motherhood when I take my walks. During my meditation I visualize the life I’m headed to. That in turn inspired me to read,which inspires me to come up with new content. Full circle,y’all!

With that being said, I don’t feel all that guilty about missing my routine sometimes. I don’t always want to be alone with myself. Sometimes I wan to jist stay busy in my other roles. Nothing wrong with trying to find a balance. Isn’t that what life is? 

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Hair Care Routine/Products ย 2017

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I just got back into my hair after neglecting it for so long. A friend of mine is having some hair care struggles of her own and we talked about different products she could try. It reminded me of how much I love my hair and how I used to go broke  using all the latest products just to keep it looking good. Not anymore. My routine is not only simple, it’s pretty affordable. Gone are the days where I will spend $36 on a curl creme. Now, I’m outchea being cute on a budget. 

First, obviously, your hair has to be clean. I tried co washing for awhile but I didn’t like it,so I went back to shampoo. I usually use Alberto VO5 Moisture Milks Strawberry Milkshake moisturizing shampoo but if I want to spare another $1.50, I will buy this:

It feels like you’re washing your hair with silk. I feel like a Queen using this shampoo. It has a lot of suds,which I like in my cleaner.

After washing, I have to deep condition my strands.I do it every two weeks. It’s important to hold on to the moisture from the shampoo and the added moisturizing ingredients from the conditioner. So my go to right now is:

It smells like lemons and it’s a protein conditioner,which means it helps strengthen the hair which in turn helps with breakage.  I section my hair in four, apply large amounts on my hair,wrap my bonnet around it,then my silk scarf for added heat so the product can penetrate. I leave it for 45 minutes and wash it out.

You could do a hot oil treatment after that step, I’m too lazy to do it. If you’re not going to do this,then I suggest following up with a moisturizing conditioner because protein conditioners are a bit drying. We want to keep as much moisture in the hair as possible,so try not to skip this step. However,  for those of you who cheat like I do and go straight to your leave in conditioner, here’s what I like to use:

Not gonna lie, I originally chose this simply for its bright yellow container. But it smell so good,y’all!!!  It can also double as a moisturizing conditioner and it works well for anti breakage protection.  I section my hair in six for this because the product seems to penetrate better when my hair is in smaller sections . I make sure I get the ends first and work my way up with my fingers. I let it dry for a minute or two then I apply:

 

I don’t use hair grease at all and if you do I STRONGLY suggest you stop now. It has petroleum in it which blocks the pores,cutting off hair growth. Bye bye to Dax and Sulfur 8. I use Jamaican Black castor oil with coconut oil. The castor oil helps the hair grow, thicken,and seal in  moisture  and the coconut oil helps strengthen the hair. I put some on my fingers and massage it into my scalp. I put a bit on the ends. It’s a heavy consistency so I use it sparingly. I don’t like my hair feeling weighed down. I leave the hair to air dry for about an hour before I’m ready to style and right now my favorite styler is:

 Black Castor Oil/Flaxseed

Coconut Oil

I have always loved ECO Styler Gel and I’m so glad they added these as options. They’re heavy like most gels but not quite as transparent. The gel actually sparkles like it has glitter in it,but when I’ve applied it, there was no sign of glitter.  After letting my hair dry for a bit, I start twisting it using the gel to hold the twist. I apply gel at the base of each twist so that it will lay down and at the end to keep the twist from unraveling.

And that’s  it! I wrap my hair up at night with a bonnet or silk scarf and in the morning I shake my head out and go. I try to stick to this routine every two weeks and I think I have found what works for me…for now. How do you take care of your tresses? What are you using?

Namaste…ish

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Just wanted to drop in and update you guys on my morning routine. Full disclosure: I have stopped and started this routine 2 times already. Third time’s the charm,they say. This go round I’ve stuck with it for almost a week. That’s a record for me because I drop out of self care things within a couple of days. This is different.  Why, you ask?

About two months ago, an ex of mine and so were catching up and he said “You haven’t changed at all in the said years I’ve known you. Don’t you want to try something different?” He was referring to my hair and clothing style,such earned him an onslaught of words that would make a sailor blush. However,he did implant in my mind that there  are  changes I’d like to make to my life style and well being and the way I approach it. Enter The Miracle Morning(TMM). I figure that a change in me will start when from when I wake up in the morning.

TMM follows a formula created by the author of the book called Life S.A.V.E.R.S. They are the steps you take during the routine. You can switch the order around if you want but here is what the routine consists of:

Silence. You can take a silent walk(sans phone), meditate,oeay,do breathing exercises,etc. Whatever you choose,do it in silence. This gives you a chance to get dome mental clarity,focus on the goals ahead if you, and it’s strss relieving.

Affirmations. Oprah does affirmations. That’s good enough for me.

A few of my affirmations. I have night time ones as well.

Visualization. Vision boards help to keep you motivated on where your trying to go and what you’re trying to do. You can choose to have a physical one where you can see it every day or an online one. Here is mine.

Exercise. This one is my least favorite   I HATE working out but I do love yoga.  I have a serious internal battle every day to get it together and hit the mat. Once I do, I feel better. This is my favorite workout (cuz it’s easy)

Reading. Obvi, this one is my favorite.  It’s suggested that you read something motivational or self help related. After I’m done with TMM,  I’ll be reading Present Over Perfect by Shauna Niequist. 

Scribing. This is a journaling exercise. I use the journaling to summarize my thoughts and feelings about what I’ve learned during my MM that morning. I jot down how I’ve improved that day,changes I want to make,and one thing I’m grateful for that morning. 

I feel a lot more energized,motivated,and positive since starting TMM. Im moving forward career wise because I have the confidence in my abilities now. I’d say that’s a big win!