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My Top Ten Podcasts for Moms

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My Top Ten Podcasts for Moms

I actually wrote this post sometime last year and I recently went to update it and somehow the graphics got messed up so I had to delete the entire post. Anyway, I looove podcast! I became obsessed with them 2 years aho and I have favorites for every aspect of my life: the mom, the woman, a Black woman in America, the creative, the business,and the Christian. Like, I owe alot of my growth as an adult to listening to other people’s perspectives and journeys in life. My blog is mostly about being a mother so of course I have a lot of podcasts about that.The thing that all of these podcasts have in common is that all of these moms are honest about the not so great aspects of motherhood. They put themselves out there and I admire that so much.Here are some of my faves(no specific order)If you have any that you think I would like, do leave that in the comments.

1) BIG FAT POSITIVE: A PREGNANCY AND PARENTING JOURNEY

Hosts: Shanna and Laura

Show Info(via Stitcher)

Big Fat Positive (BFP) is an irreverent and funny show that follows two moms-to-be on their journey through pregnancy and into new motherhood, week by week. With weekly check-ins, special guests and segments such as “OMG I’m Freaking Out,” hosts Laura Birek and Shanna Micko recount the often hilarious and always honest highs and lows of being a pregnant woman and new mom. Episodes 1 to 32 deal with pregnancy. Episodes 33 on deal with new parenthood. Tune in wherever you are on your journey! New episodes are released every Monday.

Latest episode: Pumping The Breaks on Pumping Breast Milk

2) MOMS DON’T HAVE TIME TO READ BOOKS

Host: Zibby Owens

Show Info(via Stitcher):

Writer Zibby Owens, an NYC-based mom of four, interviews and chats with other writers about their work.

Latest episode:Zibby’s Essay: Making Time For Love This Valentine’s Day

3) THAT’S INAPPROPRIATE

Hosts: Tiffany Jenkins and Meredith

Show Info:Being a parent is the toughest job on the planet. Nuff said. Join me each week for an hour where we will discuss all things marriage, motherhood, and everything in between. I will take live calls from real Moms across the globe and give my advice-ish answers to all of your burning parenting questions. Remember, you are not alone. We are here for you!

Latest episode: Preschooler Gives Play by Play of Her Stolen Perfect Attendance Pencil

4)GIRL’S GIRLS PODCAST-

Hosts: Brittany Gibbons and Meredith Soleau

Show Info:

The flagship podcast from Curvy Girl Media brings together Brittany Gibbons and friends to talk about fashion, relationships, sex, parenting, and our bodies. Cool? As long as you’re here, pull out your wine glass and stay a while. This show is not always safe for wo

Latest episode:Getting Older and Weirder

5) MOMMIFACETED-

Host: Rachel Pierre

Show Info:Interviewing successful black moms and moms of color who are juggling motherhood, their careers, and finding balance – all while following their dreams. It’s not perfect, but it’s real motherhood. This podcast tells the journey of black moms owning the many facets of their life whether that’s who to trust to watch their children, working mom life, finding out if balance is possible, self care for mothers, and maintaining relationships. Previous guests on the show have included influencer Mattie James, Julee Wilson, the Beauty Director at Essence Magazine, Dr. Joy Harden Bradford of Therapy for Black Girls, and Felecia Hatcher of Black Tech Week, all moms with successful careers. We are more than just moms. Join host, Rachel Pierre for a talk about how to do it all – if that’s even possible.

Latest episode:Which Role Comes First- Wife or Mom? w/ Lakia Brandenburg

6)WHY MOMMY DRINKS-

Hosts: Betsey Stover and Amanda Allan

Show Info:

How many times have you found yourself standing in the middle of a store with a screaming toddler? Sitting in a school pickup line with a puking baby? Maybe you just feel like the day can’t possibly get any longer. Join comedians/moms Betsy Stover and Amanda Allan each week as they chat with a different guest (actors, musicians, writers, etc…) about the moments in parenting that broke them and possibly drove them to drink. It’s an advice free zone where the hosts and guests tell heartbreakingly honest and often hilarious stories of child rearing chaos.

Latest episode: Eve Sturges: Therapist Eyes

7)EXPERIENCING MOTHERHOOD SINGLE AND BLACK

Host: Kim Williams

Show Info(via apple podcasts):
Experiencing Motherhood: Single & Black is a podcast for single moms by single moms. Kim shares her experiences throughout her single mom journey along with tips and tricks to educate, inspire, and uplift other moms. Kim also brings on other moms (and sometimes dads) to talk about various topics related to single parenting in the black community.

Latest episode:Pressing Reset: New Year, Better Me

8) MAHOGANY MOMOLOGY

Hosts: Mel and Tash

Latest episode: Motherhood Abroad

9) SPAWNED-

Hosts:Liz and Kristen

Show Info:Hi, we’re Liz Gumbinner and Kristen Chase of CoolMomPicks.com and parents to six kids between us, that we know of. We’ve got a microphone and more than the two minutes the Today Show gives us, and we’re not afraid to use them. Join us (and some awesome celebrity guests) for candid parenting culture discussions, non-judgy (mostly) tips, and a good dose of humor, if we’ve had enough coffee. Which is always.

Named a top podcast by The Washington Post, Mental Floss, Business Insider and Fatherly; 2016 Iris Award winner for best parenting podcast.

Latest episode: Our Almost totslly Live Super Fun Valentine’s Day

10) SUPER MAMAS-

Hosts: Paulina and Bricia

Show Info:

Hosted by new moms (and sisters) Paulina and Bricia Lopez. Super Mamas is a judgment-free space where new, expecting and experienced mothers can come together to learn from one another, be inspired by each other and bond over their similar upbringings and cultural background. Laugh and cry along with the Super Mamas every week as they share their stories with friends, experts and each other. New episode every Tuesday.

Latest episode: How To Talk To Your Kids About Personal Safety

4 Tips on Traveling on the Subway with A Toddler

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4 Tips on Traveling on the Subway with A Toddler

I have a 4 hour commute (going and coming back)Monday through Friday to get Amani to and from school. Most of those days I have to bring Avery with me unless his grandma babysits. I’ve been doing this for a few months now and I’ve learned a couple of things during that time. I hope these tips help and if you have any more,drop them in the comments.

1) BRING SNACKS. I’m up at 4:30 am and Avery is up at that time as well. I feed him breakfast but by the time I’ve dropped Amani off, its around 8:30 and he starts getting a little cranky and peckish. I pack dry cereal and orange juice or water and he eats and takes a nap. I suggest a healthy snack that isnt messy but if you forget, there are newsstands in most of the train stations.

2) ASK FOR HELP. One of the train stations I use to travel doesn’t have elevators or escalators,which means stairs are the only option. I usually lug the stroller up and down the stairs myself but not anymore.A young woman fell down the stairs and broke her neck while taking her stroller down the stairs. That really scared me so now if Amani isn’t with me to help, I don’t mind asking. I very rarely have to ask and it’s usually a gentleman who helps. But sometimes people act like they don’t see you and on those occasions,I ask. Don’t be afraid, remember it takes a village and who can say no to a woman with a baby?Oh, and I’ve been harassing the MTA on Twitter about putting elevators in ALL the subway stations. Might even start a petition. If they want to raise the fare, they have to make it worth it.

Lomg train rides require a nap

3) TALK TO YOUR TODDLER. Avery is in his pointing phase and he wants to know what everything is by pointing and saying “that”. Being a city baby provides LOTS of opportunities for learning. For example, here in NY the trains have letters or numbers to identify them. We take the ‘A train’ and whenever it pulls into the station,Avery will point and say ‘A’. When other trains pull in, i repeat the letter for him in an attempt to get him to recognize and remember it. Also, read the name of the stops to your toddler as well as signs and the subway maps. You may not think they are paying attention or understand but repetition is key. It alo distracts from tantrums and restlessness.

4) ENCOURAGE TALKING TO STRANGERS. As I said in #3, Avery is in a pointing phase and he loves to also point at people. People usually smile, wave, and talk to him and he ‘talks’ back. This is a great way to encourage and practice socialization skills. Avery LOVES people and is starting to understand how conversation works. Thankfully, no one talks to him in “baby talk”. A few people even shake hands with Avery which is another way he’s learning how to greet people. And just like #3, it distracts him from being restless and having a tantrum.

Traveling with a baby used to really make me nervous mbut now that I have been using these tips, its much smoother sailing. There can be annoying delays and rerouting of train lines(mostly weekends) but remember babies/toddlers thrive on consistency so no matter how the travel changes stick to the routine as much as possible. And if all else fails stick a tablet in their face. Good luck, city moms!

January 2020 Goals

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January 2020 Goals

I know I’m about two weeks late with this post but I had to really think about what my goals are for this month. I wanted to wait until I got into the groove of yet another new routine where I’m at 4:30 in the morning. This last week proved very exhausting physically but I can get things done if I use the time wisely…but I REALLY want to sleep

My personal goals are really simple. I just want to go back to my Miracle Morning routine. It was very helpful in getting me in a positive mood for the day and I enjoyed having that me time before the chaos of the kids. I’m crabby and all over the place in the morning and I sometimes take it out on the kids which I don’t like at all. So, here’s to a more calm me. Also, I’m looking for a new apartment for me,my mom,and the kids.The Girl wants to go back to Far Rockaway which I don’t really mind. My mom wants Manhattan which I do mind. It’s the most expensive borough and I’m already stretching our dollars as far as they can go. I don’t mind Brooklyn or Queens. As long as the area is decent, the home is up to code,and I can picture raising the kids there for years to come, I’m sold.

Avery’s father has come back into the picture and wants to help me raise Avery and start over with me as well. I have no issue with him being a dad and I’m cautiously optimistic about it. So far, he’s been seeing Avery once or twice week. He had a minor setback when he fell off a ladder at work and fractured his ankle but he’s recovering well. Not sure how I feel about us getting back together but I won’t completely dismiss it.

As for the blog, I have been challenged to do a schedule of posts for they entire year. That scares me because I never really plan ahead. I just write the post and publish. Even this one is unplanned and I’m doing it while holding a sleeping Avery.

I see the point of a schedule and I understand how I could benefit from one so I’m going to try it. Instead of doing it a whole year in advance I’ll break it down to scheduling a month or two in advance. If any of you have any tips on scheduling posts, drop them in my comment section because I could use the help. I’ve also started a You Tube channel. Last year, I barely watched You Tube but many of my favorite book bloggers have accompanying channels and I do enjoy visuals of them and their gorgeous bookshelves. I warn you now, I have no cute lighting, no makeup,and I’m wearing my headscarf in all the videos. This is more of an experiment right now and I don’t know if I want to do book stuff or mom stuff or both. Definitely gonna pray about that.

My reading goals are pretty overconfident to say the least. I have decided to participate in two challenge, The Modern Mrs. Darcy Challenge and the Reading Women Challenge. Oh,and I’m participating in Dewey’s Readathon in April. My book goal for the year is 35 books and between the MMD Challenge and the Reading Women Challenge, I think that’s 34 books. Some of the categories are going to be a little difficult for me but I’m up for it.

I’m looking forward to another blessed year even if I’m unable to reach all my goals. For me the purpose of them is not about completion but about the growth I will get from pursuing them. Wishing you all a prosperous, healthy new year!!!

What Is A Single Mom?

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What Is A Single Mom?

I was listening to one of my favorite podcasts, Spawned, and the topic was Who Can Be Called A Single Mom? The hosts described how they define a single mom. I believe one of the hosts’ husband has passed away so she considers herself single. After hearing their perspective, I started thinking what “single mom” means to me. So let me back up a bit.

My grandmother became a widow in 1970 after 10 years of marriage and 5 children with my grandfather. She did not date much, deciding instesd to work and raise the children. It wasnt so hard for her to do this because she had plenty of family to look after the kids while she worked. She didnt start dating until all the children were grown. According to my mom she dated a couple losers before finding a good guy and giving birth to a 6th child. She didn’t marry my uncle’s dad but they were a couple until his sudden death. He did provide financially for my uncle through his retirement benefits and there were also death benefits my uncle received as well.

To me,the fact that my grandma had a romantic partner that loved with her means she was not single. Here’s another example. My biological mother was married when she was 17 to a much older man she hsd known since childhood. They had a son a few years into marriage and then my mom left her husband. She started an affair with another married man which resulted in a baby. The married man stayed with his wife but his wife got even with him by giving my mother his social security number to claim child support for the baby. My mom went on to have 2 more children while still legally married. My youngest brother’s father was her domestic partner for around 20 years,outlasting her actual marriage. However, I considered her single because she was married through her last 3 pregnancies and her husband and her were estranged.

I consider myself single for the same reason,kind of. I’ve never been married and I’m not in a commited relationship with someone who helps take care of my kids.

Here’s a last example for you before you decide what you think single is. My adopted mom was married to a man 20 years ago. She split up with him a month or two into their marriage and they have not seen or spoken to each other since 2000. In 2006,Mom got baptized into out faith, Pentecostal Christian. In our beliefs,divorce although recognized legally is not recognized by the church. You can not date anyone until your spouse has passed. If you do legally divorce, you still can not date or remarry until your spouse has died. So according to the church, my mom was not single until her husband died a few months ago.

So,whenever a mom tells you she’s single,think about what that means for you (if you’re pursuing a mom) and ask her what that means to and for her. Tell me,moms, how do you define being a single mom?